“how can I challenge self-critical thoughts in the craziness of high school?”

11 Feb

Written By BASE

The following BASE Journal entry was written by Olivia Yaksich.

Liv is a Clinical Psychologist based in Meanjin (Brisbane), Australia.

In working with anxiety and self-esteem, we first need to understand what the worries and anxious thoughts are. The ‘where do they come from?’. Too often, my teenage clients express that they are batting within themselves thoughts of “do my friends even like me?” or “others will judge me if…?”. These worries are more common than we think and are often not voiced to others.

Ruminating (thinking deeply or over and over) on these worries can lead to them feeling stronger, and contributing to the cycle of anxiety.

With the ever-rising use of social media, teens are exposed to many more stressors and communication from peers outside of school. Although for many people this means greater opportunity than ever to stay connected with friends, this can also foster significantly greater levels of self-comparison and self-critical thoughts.

When we are overwhelmed and anxious, we often become focused on fearing the worst. Wanting to fit in with peers can also mean that we second guess the things that make us unique.

Affirmations are a beautiful way to challenge everyday negative self-talk and build resilience against worries. Below are some of my favourite affirmations that I often weave into my sessions and encourage my teens to explore about themselves.

Affirmations to challenge self-critical thoughts

I am my own person
I choose to do my best
I am proud of the things that make me different
I am worthy of respect and kindness
I am excited for what this year brings

How can these worries be weaved into your day as a beautiful reminder of who are, in the craziness of adolescence? You might write your favourite affirmation on your bedroom mirror or set a reminder on your phone for it to pop up each day. Maybe your friend needs to hear these affirmations, and you can say them together.

Much love,

Liv

More about the author:

My name is Liv, and I am a Clinical Psychologist and owner of Livwell Psychology. I incorporate a trauma-informed and attachment-based approach to wellbeing into Livwell that empowers individuals to heal, grow, and thrive. Through therapy with teens I often see common themes of self-doubt and difficulty building self-confidence. In retrospect, I am sure we can all see how much we have grown as individuals since adolescence. But at the time, that life felt very confusing and intense.